Never say 'never' or 'always' about Gay or transgender persons

Even if you are a pro-family/pro-marriage activist in only the tiniest little way, you must be careful of the way you speak or write about Gay or transgender persons. Avoid extreme words like ‘never’ and ‘always’ the way you avoid calling your best friend a mother-effer. 

Examples are when you say Gay men ‘always’ have multiple casual sex partners even when they are ‘gay-married.’ Or that transgender persons ‘never’ understand when they are asked not to talk raunchy stuff in front of tiny children. 

You don’t know every Gay or transgender person on the planet, and the ones you do know, you don’t watch them 24 hours a day. You don’t know for sure what any one Gay or transgender person always or never does, much less what all Gay or transgender persons do. 

‘Always’ or ‘never’ statements are ‘always’ an extreme and ‘never’ truthful. Plus, they provoke anger without need.

It is better to say that ‘some’ or ‘many’ Gay men find underage teen boys attractive than to say ‘all’ Gay men ‘always’ do and ‘never’ show respect for the age-of-consent laws.

And when you do say these milder things, it is best to try to document them. If you can find some Gay leader speaking out for ‘open’ (non-faithful) marriage, then you can document that at least one leader of the Gay community has that opinion.

When the issue of transgender biological males going in to battered women’s shelters comes up, some conservatives have said they ‘only’ go into a battered women’s shelter to victimize the women.

The problem is that many transgender persons of both biological sexes have experienced abuse and violence and may need shelter. The only question is, where shall they go? Ideally there should be shelters available to meet the needs of many types of abuse victims. And, no, you can’t put a battered man in with battered women— it will scare some of the women when they need a less-scary place to recover. 

The first and best move for any of us when speaking out in a pro-family/pro-marriage way is to speak with compassion for those who are on the other side. And that means ‘never’ using words like ‘always,’ ‘never,’ and ‘all’ when some more restrictive phrase will communicate your meaning better. 

The LGBTwhatever Movement vs Your Family

A few years back I read something online that horrified me. A teenage boy who identified as ‘Gay’ told his parents that they needed to leave their Catholic faith, or they would no longer be his parents. How could parents deal with that? Would they make a show of leaving their faith, and sneak off to Confession or Mass when they thought their son would not know? Or would that demand create a long-term barrier to the parent-child relationship?

When the LGBTxyz movement leads its victims to think it’s OK to make threats to withdraw from family relationships to browbeat a family member into changing their religion or politics, they are risking that those victims will be cut off from their families— their emotional support system. But somehow the LGBTxyz folks just keep on doing things like that— because they have more power when individual ‘Gay’ people are socially isolated from those outside the ‘Gay’ community, and are more dependent on ‘Gay’ institutions and the Movement.

As a person with Same-Sex Attraction, I guess I don’t like the LGBT movement enough. Before my birth, it wasn’t the LGBT movement that was in labor for hours to bring me into the world. My mom did that. It wasn’t the LGBT movement that worked for hours and hours daily to earn the money to provide for my needs and wants. My dad did that. When persons with Same-Sex Attraction are faced with hard times or the loss of a love or homelessness or depression, is the LGBT movement going to run to their houses to hold their hands, or are their family members going to do that. 

Of course, families can be imperfect— even actually abusive in some cases. And even non-abusive families can disapprove of a child’s promiscuous ‘Gay’ or straight lifestyle or drug use or alcoholism, and the child involved can get mad about that or disagree or want to get parental and family approval for all of their actions up to and including felonies. But for most of us, its the members of our families that we rely upon for emotional support and practical help in tough situations— even if those family members can’t be persuaded to march in a ‘Pride’ parade for your sake.

But the LGBT movement like other political movements is about power, and your healthy, strong family is a threat to that power. If you spend a lot of your time interacting with your parents and family members, you have less time to directly support LGBT activism by showing up at protests or kicking money in to their organizations. But if you sacrifice your family relationships for the LGBT movement’s sake, there is a void in your life that an impersonal far-off Movement cannot fill.