Is 'Transgender Kids' Phenom meant to please Old 'Drag Queens?'

‘Transgender Kids’ are now, alas, a thing. Young kids are ‘diagnosed’ and given hormone blockers that will affect the rest of their life, and are told to look forward to surgery and life-long artificial hormone use.

Does this please the kids? Or their parents? Or does it please adult transgender, gender dysphoric and/or drag-queen type persons? Many of such adults did their ‘gender-transitioning’ in their mature years— age thirty or at least late twenties. Being past puberty, they may not make believable women or men, may feel they are not ‘pretty’ or ‘handsome’ enough, even if they are.

Most transgender adults, looking back at their childhoods, find attitudes and experiences that predict their future transgender selves. But are these perceptions factual, or the kind of thing we all do? I am, as an adult, a Catholic, Republican and a resident of a rural area. There are things in my childhood that may point to this— but other things that point the other way. Maybe my perception now is selective, because I now know how I turned out. And I certainly don’t believe that I am a Catholic Republican hick because I was ‘born that way.’

Objective scientific study needs to be done with the children who are being diagnosed as ‘transgender.’ If left alone, what percent will identify as transgender, and will it be a lifelong condition? What are the long-term consequences of giving children hormone blockers? But instead the transgender ‘experts’ are plunging right in and experimenting on children.

It’s true that if children aren’t given hormone blockers, and if they are transgender as adults, they won’t be as feminine or masculine looking as they would be otherwise. But what if a boy given hormone blockers starts identifying as a boy? What if that treatment makes him into a man who looks gender-ambiguous? 

I think it’s all about our culture’s fixation on being ‘pretty’ or ‘handsome.’ But good looks are not the main point of life. Good looks disappear with age, anyway. So what if that biological man in the Marilyn Monroe dress looks a tad less feminine than the real Marilyn Monroe? It’s just a sign that his body wasn’t messed with when he was too young to give informed consent. He may be quite pretty in his own, unique, born-a-man way. Maybe we have to learn to appreciate that.

Never say 'never' or 'always' about Gay or transgender persons

Even if you are a pro-family/pro-marriage activist in only the tiniest little way, you must be careful of the way you speak or write about Gay or transgender persons. Avoid extreme words like ‘never’ and ‘always’ the way you avoid calling your best friend a mother-effer. 

Examples are when you say Gay men ‘always’ have multiple casual sex partners even when they are ‘gay-married.’ Or that transgender persons ‘never’ understand when they are asked not to talk raunchy stuff in front of tiny children. 

You don’t know every Gay or transgender person on the planet, and the ones you do know, you don’t watch them 24 hours a day. You don’t know for sure what any one Gay or transgender person always or never does, much less what all Gay or transgender persons do. 

‘Always’ or ‘never’ statements are ‘always’ an extreme and ‘never’ truthful. Plus, they provoke anger without need.

It is better to say that ‘some’ or ‘many’ Gay men find underage teen boys attractive than to say ‘all’ Gay men ‘always’ do and ‘never’ show respect for the age-of-consent laws.

And when you do say these milder things, it is best to try to document them. If you can find some Gay leader speaking out for ‘open’ (non-faithful) marriage, then you can document that at least one leader of the Gay community has that opinion.

When the issue of transgender biological males going in to battered women’s shelters comes up, some conservatives have said they ‘only’ go into a battered women’s shelter to victimize the women.

The problem is that many transgender persons of both biological sexes have experienced abuse and violence and may need shelter. The only question is, where shall they go? Ideally there should be shelters available to meet the needs of many types of abuse victims. And, no, you can’t put a battered man in with battered women— it will scare some of the women when they need a less-scary place to recover. 

The first and best move for any of us when speaking out in a pro-family/pro-marriage way is to speak with compassion for those who are on the other side. And that means ‘never’ using words like ‘always,’ ‘never,’ and ‘all’ when some more restrictive phrase will communicate your meaning better.