Never say 'never' or 'always' about Gay or transgender persons

Even if you are a pro-family/pro-marriage activist in only the tiniest little way, you must be careful of the way you speak or write about Gay or transgender persons. Avoid extreme words like ‘never’ and ‘always’ the way you avoid calling your best friend a mother-effer. 

Examples are when you say Gay men ‘always’ have multiple casual sex partners even when they are ‘gay-married.’ Or that transgender persons ‘never’ understand when they are asked not to talk raunchy stuff in front of tiny children. 

You don’t know every Gay or transgender person on the planet, and the ones you do know, you don’t watch them 24 hours a day. You don’t know for sure what any one Gay or transgender person always or never does, much less what all Gay or transgender persons do. 

‘Always’ or ‘never’ statements are ‘always’ an extreme and ‘never’ truthful. Plus, they provoke anger without need.

It is better to say that ‘some’ or ‘many’ Gay men find underage teen boys attractive than to say ‘all’ Gay men ‘always’ do and ‘never’ show respect for the age-of-consent laws.

And when you do say these milder things, it is best to try to document them. If you can find some Gay leader speaking out for ‘open’ (non-faithful) marriage, then you can document that at least one leader of the Gay community has that opinion.

When the issue of transgender biological males going in to battered women’s shelters comes up, some conservatives have said they ‘only’ go into a battered women’s shelter to victimize the women.

The problem is that many transgender persons of both biological sexes have experienced abuse and violence and may need shelter. The only question is, where shall they go? Ideally there should be shelters available to meet the needs of many types of abuse victims. And, no, you can’t put a battered man in with battered women— it will scare some of the women when they need a less-scary place to recover. 

The first and best move for any of us when speaking out in a pro-family/pro-marriage way is to speak with compassion for those who are on the other side. And that means ‘never’ using words like ‘always,’ ‘never,’ and ‘all’ when some more restrictive phrase will communicate your meaning better.